This is Her Song

adventureratheart:

I used to have this whole weird issue about love.

Like, what is it, and how much do you have to like someone before you love them?

And some people say they love complete strangers, and some people never tell others until it is too late.

And, I don’t know. I used to think that in order to love…

This spoke to me because it sounded so much like something I would have written as a teenager, so I felt compelled to reply.

There will be milestones within your romantic life that will continually redefine your personal definition of love. That is the important thing to remember, that although all facets of love—for your mom, your dog, your favorite color, a boyfriend, a spouse—are the same emotion, we are all constantly experiencing our own personal level of love at any given moment, and it differs for everyone. What I’m trying to say in simpler terms, is that right now, you are infatuated with this boy and you think, “Wow, this is stronger than anything I’ve experienced, this is it, isn’t it? This is love!” and if you should ever be in another relationship, you will think that again, and you will love again even more than you thought was possible. Then, one day, you find this person and everything just fits. It just feels easy, like you can be with them like a best friend, would die for them like family, couldn’t live without them. Every strong feeling of love you have ever had will be trumped by this great love, but it isn’t some magical moment you realize one day, it is just this happy peacefulness in your heart that you have found the person in this world you want to share your joys with, and get through the worst of times with. Anyway, this is what I wish I would have told my teenage self. You have to love, and when that is over, love again. It takes ups and downs to exercise your heart and really appreciate life, so that when you fall in love with that person you maybe didn’t even know you were searching for… you will feel the enormity of that love. Never discount a friendship either, true love can grow from unexpected places. Either way, it is worth waiting for. It shakes your soul awake and recharges your life. You won’t regret a day building up to it.